Yes, of course they should! Is a girl likely to accept such a man? No, why should she? There are plenty of tall men to choose from. Is the short man likely to be humiliated in the futile attempt to get a tall woman? Of course! It'll be a horrible experience for him. Should he attempt it anyway, even if the odds are overwhelmingly against him? Of course he should! Let me explain!
Men exist to compete with each other for women. That's the role that nature has given us to play. It's our lot in life to be disappointed, humiliated, frustrated, chased away by other men, and be otherwise miserable in our attempt to get women who are simply not in our league. A man who can make rational calculations about love and then act on them is an alien creature, devoid of human emotion.
I think tragedy is part of life and it's unnatural to go to extremes to try to avoid it. We are made better by the pursuit of the tragic end. The short man will try harder when he goes after the tall woman. He'll learn to dance, he'll try to get a better job, he'll try to cultivate wit and conversation. These will all come in useful later when he's eventually (and inevitably) snubbed by the tall woman and enters the competition for quality short women.
By the way, I'm not short myself but I see the dramas that are being played out on the street and I can't help but form an opinion about them. By trying too hard to avoid humiliation short men deprive themselves of essential, ennobling life experiences.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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Sure! I'm a tall man (6,26 feet that's 1,91 m here in Europe) and always pursued short women. Well, in fact I'm a bit afraid of tall women. And tall people. I'm a short man in a tall man's body!
I think short men should chase tall women! Especially if they live in a Will Elder comic.
I love tall women. And some tall women have loved me.
Fortunately, I am not short. Unfortunately, I am not tall.
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I've gone for shorties! They tend to have some amazing talent like cooking, or playing any instrument!
I'm short! Taller women always liked me, though.
I married an amazon uncle eddie! love it love it! I always wondered about the really tall men and the tiny petitie woman thingy?
I'm tall, and a magnet for short men, most of whom, to their credit, have ramped up the charm in order to level the field. Meanwhile, a lot of tall men--the extra-large beefy types--seem to think they don't need anything more than their physiques to swoon the ladies.
On the downside, short men make me feel big, which is undesirable to me, and there is always that icky feeling of some sort of fetish being played out. It's bad for my posture, too.
My brother is 6'4" and his wife is 5'2". I admit I've wondered how they have managed to produce three children given the disparity. Not that I want to think about that kind of thing, but it's hard to ignore.
This is such a great blog. You should have your own show, or some kind of "salon", where you wear a monocle and hold court. I look forward to it every day.
I say more power to them!
Hi Uncle Eddie - who did the comic book sketches in your blog for this topic? They're really nice!
As for the subject on hand - I'm not sure why short men pursue tall women. I'm tall (5'9"), and I've been pursued by men who are shorter than I am. (I agree with spizzerinktum - shorter men do put on the charm more than their taller counterparts.)
I've also noticed that tall men pursue short women. My brother, who is 6'5", chases after small girls. I think the tallest one he's ever dated was only 5'4".
It ain't easy being 5'8''.
Jennifer: The top two drawings are by Will Elder and the bottom one is by Wally Wood.
Spizz: Thanks for the compliment! You described the experience of being a tall woman pretty well. I don't have a height preference when it comes to women. I'm always amazed when I hear men describe their ideal woman with excrutiating specificity. The only specific requirement that makes sense to me is...magic!
I don't really care for men that are shorter than me. (I'm 6 feet even, so when I was dating it pretty much ruled out the majority of Earth's male population.)
Lucky for me my boyfriend is 6'3 :)
I asked out a short man once, the bastard said no and then spent the next 2 years trying to get me..
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I thought i should at least once try playing by these modern non-chivalry rules; but i dont like em!!!!
Hahaha! Nice EC comics pics Eddie!
I've persued tall wemon alot and it's always turned out the way I want. I'm just too loveable.
-Drew
Im about 6'2" and have always been attracted to shorter women.. my ex was 5' and my current girl is 5'2. I really wouldnt date a girl taller than me.. she would be a friggin monster!!.. but for girls, i think its a big taboo to date a guy shorter than her.
Thanks for the Public Service Message, Eddie. The world could use more "Betty Rubble" types -complete with their inherent tastes when it comes to men.
If you're a short guy and you fancy 'em long, may I suggest dating tall single mothers?
Their standards are a lot lower, and you can always use the child to stand on when you need to reach her boobs.
That's why the Lord put heels on loafers.
you bring up the napoleon complex in this post. it's always interesting and tends to hold true through my experiences with witnessing shorter men and their obvious insecurities. they overcompesate for their lack of height. (prince, iggy pop are examples of over the top short men who have successfully removed the stigma attatched with being 5'2...and a man). My personal bias is finding a girl who is tall enough. Have you ever given a midget a hug? a person way shorter than you a hug? have you ever went to a bar or a club and talked to a short(er) person(and had to bend over 5 million times to listen to their short soft voices). Unless they are some licensed masseuse that will fix your lower back pain it is just not worth the trouble. I used to be afraid of tall girls or girls as tall or just shy of my own height, then i hugged one of them, and i was amazed at how easy it was. I didn't realize hugs could be so comfortable. Makes perfect sense though. I think there are plenty of short average and tall girls out there for everyone, but there is also the matter of weight, "personality" and looks. hahaha to each their own or something.
What about men that are short and bald?
Tall women go notoriously crazy for them and from above they can comfortably leave their telephone number on the bald patch using their lipstick.
Very interesting. Unfortunately, I disagree. It's quite common the knowledge tht short men(such as myself at 5'7") have better odds at getting a date with a short women of equal height or shorter. Would you go to a casino and try to find the worst odds possible, or would you find your best chance to win and go for it?
Not to mention many women strictly enforce the policy of "no man shorter than myself". Others meanwhile take it a step farther, and look for much taller men to avoid any high heel paradoxes or to feel like they're getting "more man". In turn making the equal height or slightly taller man already at a disadvantage. Why go after an even less likely deal?
Obviously though, these theories has a kink in it, since our funds are essentially unlimited. So then the question becomes about a tolerance and yearning for humiliation. Are you accepting of it? Should you avoid it? Would it make you try harder? And is trying harder in dating a good thing? Probably not as women are wooed by what they can't have or what happens naturally, and not by what is as threateningly paralyzing to them as a desperate good natured short man.
For me, tall women add nothing really to the deal really for me and I've always found short women very attractive. So I try to keep my options open for special tall exceptions that I'd rather not regret later, but on the whole date under the policy of equal height or shorter
"... may I suggest dating tall single mothers? Their standards are a lot lower,..."
If that's true then why are they single? Wouldn't they all be hooked up with a male, any male of the species, given their 'low' standards?
Seems to me the averages must mean that the so-called "single mothers" are probably single because they're a bit more choosy. ; )
i don't know why david gemmill complains about obscenely short women. i took a midge to prom and everytime she hugged me, it was like dry fellatio. i rest my case.
I've dated both tall and short women and I do not recall a specific height as a definitive criterion.
If a short man is interested in a taller woman (or taller women in general), then why discourage him? There are enough things in life where your standards must be lowered (job opportunities, living conditions, political candidates), I do not see why people must compromise on this issue. When I last checked, close to fifty percent of the 6 billion people in the world were women.
Second, I like diversity (which is one of the reasons why I like insects). I'd like to see more couples which didn't look like a page from a Sears catalog.
A site on tall women http://www.lonympics.co.uk/womenn3.htm
I am 5'11" and after many years of being an equal opportunity dater have decided that I want a man who is taller than me in heels. Watch me fall in love with someone 5'8" now, hahah! Anyway nothing against short men going for tall women I say go for it. I have 4 girlfriends all of whom are over 5'9" and they date short dudes.
Short men should do as they please. Go after taller women if you like. Nuff tall women like shorter men. Beware, some of the greatest men in history were the shortest among men. I am 1.57m and I like women in all sizes. I have dated shorter as well as taller women.
I'm 5'9" and I would not have dated a man shorter than I am. Maybe that makes me a jerk, but no matter how thin I get I always feel gargantuan next to a man who is shorter than I am. Lots of short men have hit on me, as well as medium-sized men. Luckily, though, tall men like me too. My husband is around 6'2" and sometimes I still feel too tall next to him. When I wear high heels, we are eye to eye and I am not that fond of that sensation.
I know I should feel lucky because of my height. Sometimes, though, it makes one feel like a freak to be half a foot taller than the average woman. A shorter man just makes me feel awkward, but that is due to my own hang-ups. If I was 5'3", I'd have no problem dating a man who was short. What I don't like is feeling gigantic and gangly when I am actually a very well-proportioned, though taller-than-average, woman.
It is sad that when a short man pursues me I wonder if he is a pervert or fetishist. I know my attitude is unfair, but I don't think it will be changing.
Short men shouldn't approach women at all, regardless of height.
You know what "they" say, opinions are like assholes...everyone's got one. Not sure if I'm calling myself an asshole or not.
I'll admit it write off...I'm short, and I do have a "chip" on my shoulder about it. Now, it's an invisible chip, but it's still there. I've been dating a 6' tall, gorgeous woman for 8 years; had she wanted a taller man, god knows she's had the opportunity to do so over that time. Now, she wants us to get married, and I'm so hesitant because I don't want to stand directly besided her because of what others might be thinking. Yes, I know that's small.
If to many of us height is such a factor in finding a mate and is crucial to a successful relationship, why do almost half of all marriages (and lets assume the height requirement is met in many of those unions) end in divorce?
Time to go find me some platform shoes...
I am a short guy my height is 5'0,all my life i thought i would never find a woman who loved me for my height.Then while at work i met a woman she was slightly taller than 5'1 but we were attracted straight away.I mean i have had only 2 partners both being taller than me.One woman was 5'8 and the other 5'6,to me it didnt seem right and unfortunetly for them i was more bothered than the woman.Now my partner at the moment is 5'1 good for me is that she doesnt wear these really high heels.When we go out her height is around 5'3 if that and mine is 5'1.To me that is perfect has when it comes to having cuddles it is great.When we are both barefooted indoors amazing we just gel.I mean i spend most of my life having to look up at everyone so it just makes a change for us both.I was the shortest in my family and so was she but we both come from taller families which is abit strange hey.My partner tells me she had only had really tall guys and fullt appreciates us.
I enjoyed reading your site- found it through google. I have to give kudos to Spizzerinktum- for I agree w/ what she said. I am a 6' tall 33 year old. I dated anywhere from 5'6" to 7'! However, for self confidence issues, I do have to say it's more difficult to not feel like an Amazon woman when w/ a man who is 5'6 [give or take]. But PREACH on..........to each their own and if you're comfortable and he is comfortable- GO FOR IT!! :) Kat
I have to admit to loving taller women. Nothing makes me feel better then being the short (er) guy (at 5'9ish, not exactly a giant here) seen with the tall beauty.
The woman I am dating a woman who is also 18 years older then me, I'm 24. (she's tall - 5'11, blonde, beautiful - nuff said).
Guys I wholehardtedly recommend going after taller women, usually they have fewer guys to choose from cause of their tallness. I find them very approachable, and open to the idea once you get past the usual chick tests.
For some reason I seem to have more problems getting the shorter women, they dont see me as tall enough I guess!!!
I never thought too much of it, but I do find myself discriminating against shorter women. I guess maybe because for much of my life I was always among the shortest quarter of the population in every class in school, until about my mid-teens, when I hit my present peak of 5'8.5(varies up or down 1/2 an inch). Funnily enough, that was about the same height as the tallest girl in the school back then(and I subsequently ran into her at a mall and noticed she had a 6' boyfriend. Go figure.). I rail against the media stereotype that the guy must be a massive 6' or more and the woman 5' or less. It just leads to a semi-imbalanced relationship. If the guy is bigger, he naturally has a physical advantage over her. This ends in one of two ways. He either exerts it, resulting in a woman who will eventually castrate/kill him in his sleep, or he compensates by submitting to her, in which case, he becomes a henpecked husband.
What was my point again? Oh yeah, I prefer women around my own height, with a maximum variation of 10cm(4") in either direction, putting them between 5'4 and 6'. Minimal physical disparity, which also means in the event that either one of us passes out in a fire/cave-in/whatever, the other is likely to be able to carry them out, rather than abandoning them("Oh, what a noble sacrifice!").
I often catch myself zooming in the moment I spot a woman within an inch of my own height, but often turning away disappointed, because she's wearing ridiculously high heels/wedges. Shoe-augmented height annoys me. Not just because it cheats my natural inclinations, but because it just winds up with problems later in life. :/
I'm shy of 5'10", 240lbs(not overweight). Most women that show any real interest are usually as "tall" or taller and certainly taller than me in "heels". (I don't wear heels.:-) )
Which is good since I actually prefer taller women. No, it's not a fetish, I just find women much shorter than me to be too tiny.
I don't why it is, probably shoulder to waist ratio and the amount of light I block ... but whatever ... no complaints. Just more of a good thing really.
Like some tall men prefer short women, I am the other way. So there is probably some chemical voodoo happening there somewhere.
I've dated a couple of taller women and I've dated shorter women. It can be both incredibly hot or incredibly awkward, depending on the woman, but I don't think it's really worth it. No women that I've ever met have ever really enjoyed the thought of being taller than their man, and you know it's always going to bother them a bit. Why have that nagging you in the back of your mind?
I loved the blog...
I'm a tall chick dating a shorter guy. I had ruled him out at first b/c of his height but I relized that we are just brainwashed by standard of society. Think about the fairy tales : Big tall strong guy rescues the fragile petite woman. Think about advertisement; do you ever see Calvi Klein selling jeans with a short male model and tall female model together? No. B/c most standard of height in nature for humans allows men to be taller. As female we've been raised to think we should be with a man bigger than us.
I'm short (5'9''), hairy, and have baldness on my father's side of the family. Needless to say, I'm very self-conscious of my body. I've, for the most part, dated short women, and they always make a comment about that second attribute.
I've dated two tall women (one of even height and the other about two inches taller) and they didn't make any comments about my height.
However, I recently started hanging out with a girl who is about 6' and, boy o boy, does it feel awkward. She's slipped a comment about height in guys and it just made me feel worse. She seems to be more attracted to my intelligence, so it's not like it'll be the sole reason for a rift.
The whole height thing is a social issue. Many cultures view height as status and, try as we may, we still hold that a male should be taller, should establish more authority, be more dominant, than the female.
Talk about equality.
Being short sucks. :(
I'm 5'11 and I have dated men shorter than myself plenty of times. Usually they're only shorter by a couple of inches, but once I dated a guy that was 5'6. He was hilarious and a lot of fun. He also was obsessed with how long my legs were.
I have also dated a couple guys that were 6'8! They were nice too and it was cool to wear heels and have the guy STILL be taller than me. I'm not used to that.
I think height is such a superficial issue. Personality is what is important. Guys that only date short women and women that only date tall men must be insecure and superficial.
I love tall women, actually i kinda have to. I am just over 3 feet tall and my wife is 6 ft 6 inches tall we have been happily married for 26 years and we have five beautiful daughters who are now 8, 10, 10, 12, and 16 and all of them were taller than me when they were 3 years old. They actually are exceptionally tall for their age, and my youngest child is actually 5 ft 3!
Of course i feel tiny compared to them, but it doesnt matter to me. all that matters is that i love them and they love me.
In fact, now all of my children can carry me in public and people think that i am their child, not the other way around.
Short men should definitely pursue women taller than them, or at least me because short men are a huge turn-on in my opinion. It's like the same amount of man in concentrate- extra potent!
wow what a novel blog
You just got a new fan of your blog whatever is here in your blog is true
I love the first cartoon i can see myself in it
Let me tell you my story
I am short only about 5 4 in height so of course many girls are taller than me I am really obsessed with taller women.. I just really wanna touch them and have them love me
I can never resist a woman taller than me no matter if she is the ugliest woman on earth... really
Recently now I am in love with a girl who is 5 9... she kinda likes me too but I feel really emabarased to be walking close to her ... i feel really inferior... and if snubs me due to my height I will never be able to shake this off
so what do you guys suggest Should I feel humiliated walking up to her or not since she is so much taller than me
Lot of my friends say things like you will need a ladder etc and I hate them
Regards
Am 5ft4 male and i'm pretty much screwed lol All my previous gfs have been the same height or taller by an inch or so.
Its especially hard for a male 5ft4/6 and i am realizing this when joining an online site for the first time.
I would not waste someone's time when her stated online preference is 5ft 7 and above. Its also respecting their preferences and being a gentleman about it.
I'm still optimistic though given i've been blessed in my previous relationships. But i'm definitely finding it daunting to join the dating community via online sites.
Their height preferences is the first thing i look at....i know that's mine and her's loss....
Guys, height doesn't matter to me. I really like guys who are "shorter" and stacked. I have met some real big& tall jerks or clueless guys. The brain is the most attractive thing and well, so is wit and humor and self confidence. So many tall dudes just don't seems to have that of themselves. But you short guys do.
By the way, being short waisted, I actually like a shorter guy anyways. The more leg to wrap him with my dears. (wolf grin)
Why shouldn't short men go after tall women? There's so much to love about a tall, leggy, curvy beauty with big sexy pedicured feet! Being shorter than your girl is really old and outdated anyways.
It's real nice reading some of the posts here from the taller ladies digging the shorter guys. Gotta love you for that! Keep it up girls! Good things come in small packages, but bigger and better things can come in small packages too, if you know what I mean! Don't be scared to take on a shorter man. You just might be pleasantly surprised!
Being a bit closer to the tall range, I think I've obsessed so much about my height that I try not to factor it in anymore and just go with the flow. I used to not be able to accept being shorter than someone and somehow I still managed to date a girl who had a boyfriend and hang out with a very tall girl who asked me out. I just see it as a height complex and something that deals with confusion that won't let up these days. I'm starting to not really mind thinking like how a good parent would judge his kids and not pressure them to go beyond their natural beauty and help them feel confident about it even if they were short =)
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